Increasing your value is the best way to attract the best quality women into your life. You do this by working on yourself.
Men who build wealth, social status, and look after their appearance, always have the first choice of available women. It is why 20% of the men get 80% of the women.
It all started with the pickup artists
There is a book called ‘The Game’ by Neil Straus. That book was part of an uprising of ‘Pick Up Artists’ or PUAs. They would swap advice with each other on the best way to meet and date women.
The advice consisted of techniques used to enhance your perceived status in pick-up scenarios. It was a combination of increasing your social status and reducing hers. Basically, playing on a women’s hypergamous nature. A man would appear to be a better, more valuable option than the women who would then be attracted to him.
At the time, it was a revolution because it empowered men to take control of their own dating lives. It placed the dating power into the men’s hands.
Over time, the pick-up techniques employed became more and more sophisticated and refined. The book hit on some great hypothesis and, helped plant a seed for the red pill ideology.
The Game was in the right direction, it just needed a slight amendment. Increasing your game is fundamentally about changing your life.
True game is not that you appear to be confident and successful. It is so that you are confident and successful. There is a big difference.
This is why over time the pickup scene has begun to look more and more like the self-improvement scene.
The focus of game is now less on how to make women attracted to you. It is now about becoming the best version of yourself which women are attracted as a natural by-product. Richard Cooper talks a lot about this in his writings.
You need to become the center of your universe
When you’re a teenager, you are swimming in hormones. It’s quite natural for you to spend your hours daydreaming. Thinking about girls and thinking about sex. This is natural.
As you get older and wiser, you accumulate more experiences. You start to realise that women cannot be the focus of your life.
The main focus of your life should always be yourself.
It is important to understand that when you place women at the center of your world, they’re not going to find you attractive.
The more you chase women, the more they run away.
Women are like cats. If you chase them to pet them, they will run away. If you ignore them, they will come to you to be petted. The more you ignore a cat, the more you will attract it.
Men continue to make the same mistakes with dating women.
Here’s an example. A man likes a girl and so he starts focusing more and more attention to her.
He’s thinking about her all the time.
He wants to spend all his time with her.
He wants to be closer to her.
But the more he does that, the more she’s repulsed by that behaviour and less attracted to him.
Women need to look up to a man. If you place a woman on a pedestal, don’t be surprised when she looks down on you.
For any young guys reading this, you need to pay special attention.
Stop focusing so much on women.
I know you want to go on dates.
I know you want a girlfriend.
I know you want to have sex.
That’s why you need to stop focusing on women because they don’t find that attractive.
If you want to have women in your life. If you want to have relationships. If you want to have abundant sexual experiences. Focus on yourself. Forget trying to please women.
Forget all the little seduction techniques. Forget all the pickup out of stuff. Forget all the little tips and tricks and focus on the big picture. Focus on building you.
You need to change the way you look at the world.
You need to ignore what your hormones are telling you to do.
They’re telling you to put women at the center of your world.
They are telling you to focus on women.
You should be the focus of your world. You need to be your own center of gravity. You need to be the captain of your own ship.
Men are Islands. Women are boats
Here is a great analogy that you need to understand. I first heard it from Alexander Grace on his YouTube channel. His material is great.
Men are islands and women are boats.
OK, so what does this mean? Well, think of it this way.
Every man lives alone on an Island.
He plants the trees and plants that he likes.
He builds the buildings and roads that he wants.
He landscapes his surroundings to how he wants it.
He spends his time and resources shaping the Island.
He’s happy there alone on his Island.
His island is a reflection of his masculine energy.
But women are not islands.
Women don’t want to spend their time and resources building their own Islands. Women want a pre-built island.
This is why women are boats.
Women jump in their boat and they sail through the water. They sail between the islands looking for one that looks enticing.
If they see an Island that they like, they’ll dock their boat. They’ll go onshore and they’ll live on the man’s Island.
They’ll try it out. If they like it, they’ll stay. If they don’t, they’ll hop back on their boat and sail off again and try and find another Island.
What this means in the real world is that men are the ones who are creating the life that they want. Women are ancillary to a man’s island. Women will contribute to the islands after it is built.
The more attractive and appealing the island, the more women will want to live on it.
All the tricks and techniques in the world will not help. The only thing that matters, is building a better island.
Men should become the best version of themselves
Men are generally the ones creating things of value and women are consumers of that value. This is natural to a woman’s hypergamous nature.
Now, apply the island-building into an individual man’s life.
You might find that one man’s life is all about writing and recording music. He goes around bars and plays music to those that will listen. He creates a musician’s look and lives a musician lifestyle. This is his island.
Another man’s life is centered around building a successful company. He builds a business and employs people. He is focused on making money. This is his island.
Another guy may be unemployed. He doesn’t choose to work and instead enjoys sitting around watching TV and smoking weed all day. This is his island.
All islands are different and hold their own particular value in the eyes of women.
A woman will sail into a guy’s life and she’ll try his island. She sails up and walk around the island and see what it has to offer. She’s not building her own island, she’s just seeing how well she fits into his.
She’s looking to see if it’s a good fit for her. If it is, she’ll stay a while. If it’s not, she’ll sail to another island. She will always be on the look out for a better island. Always bear that in mind.
This dynamic is what comes naturally to both genders.
It is the natural flow of things. Men are masculine. Men are the leaders, the creators, the ones with the vision and dedication to achieving their life purpose.
Women are different. They have their own role. They’re feminine and supportive. Deep inside herself, a woman knows that it’s her feminine role to contribute her energy towards helping a man achieve his vision.
The two work in harmony. This harmony is currently unbalanced due to the rise of feminism but that is a whole different story.
A woman will sail the ocean looking at islands and thinking, ‘which one would I like to live on? Which of these islands can I best use my feminine energy on and help build a better island?’
You need to understand that women are not islands. Women are boats.
Once you understand this, you realise why men make so many mistakes in the dating scene.
Why some men are unsuccessful at dating
Men are failing in their masculinity because they’re not focused on themselves.
They’re not focused on creating an amazing Island.
They are not focused on creating an amazing life.
Men who are not successful at dating are on their own boats.
They’re failing miserably because their time is spent following around the female boats.
That’s why women ignore them.
Women aren’t looking for a man with a boat.
Women want a man with his own independent life.
Women are looking for a man on an Island.
There are exceptions to every rule. Occasionally, a woman does find a man with a boat attractive. She will allow him to hitch his boat to hers. But the relationship is doomed from the start because she’s not going to be attracted to a man with a boat. These tend to be sexual flings. Women tend to be attracted to men in boats when they are riding the cock carousel. When women get older and their sexual market value decreases, they look for men on islands.
A man shouldn’t be living on a boat.
A man should be living on an island.
The more appealing the island, the more women you’ll attract.
How to attract more women by focusing on yourself
When you are focusing on women, you are pushing your energy outwards. That energy is repelling women. It is literally pushing them away.
When a man focusing his energy inwards, it attracts women. It pulls them in. You focus your energy inwards by working on yourself. By becoming a better person.
Your island has a natural gravity that will attract women. The bigger the island, the more gravity you have.
Stop being a bit character in your own story.
This is your life.
You are the main character in your movie.
Once you’ve created your perfect Island, women are going to start to arrive on their boats.
All of them will be desperate to live there permanently.
You will be in the position to choose which one of them gets to stay. If any.