Women’s modern dating strategy is short-sighted and could end up harming future relationships.
Dating in the modern age is easy. You go onto a dating app and the choice of potential partners is almost endless. A new date is a swipe away. However, could the easy of new partners jeopardize your future relationships?
Some women complain that modern-day men are lazy and immature. They are not chivalrous and treat women with little respect. In the modern age of easy hook-ups, is sex too easy and available?
Do men want easy sex and no commitment?
Or, do women want their cake and eat it?
If all you think men are after you for sex then ask yourself the question: what else can I offer? What else do you bring to the table? What value do you bring to the relationship?
How do women promote themselves?
Back in my day men, we’re more chivalrous. Rightly or wrongly, they were expected to pay for dates. They would hold the door open for ladies. During dating men were expected to be polite and courteous.
But things changed.
We have seen the rise of feminism. Feminism and women’s equality is fine but it does come with consequences. equality should be exactly that, equality. Not equality on their terms.
We see all sorts of women’s liberation at the minute. Instead of promoting women’s achievements in science and technology, we see women posing in bikinis on social media. We have female celebrities famous for making sex videos or taking their clothes off.
We see women all over social media with filters that make them look nothing like they do in real life. They make women look younger and thinner.
If women don’t want to be seen purely as sexual objects, why would they use this approach? If all you have to offer is sex, then that is all you will get.
Men are hardwired to not marry promiscuous women
Humans have evolved over millions of years. From our common ancestors the great apes to the modern human. We are one of the most successful species ever. We have achieved that through a complex social structure.
Like the great apes have a strict social hierarchy, so do we. Because we use iPhones doesn’t mean we are not apes using iPhones. We software may have evolved but our operating system is still thousands of years old.
Humans have evolved with certain ‘cognitive’ shortcuts and pre-dispositions for a reason. It helped us survive.
The human eye can distinguish more shades of green than any other colour. Primates evolved this as an advantage to help identify fruit in the forests. We also evolved to walk on two feet as it is more efficient than walking on four.
Well, we also have mating shortcuts inside our ape brains.
Have you ever wondered why McDonalds Fries and Pringles taste so good? It is hardwired in our ape brains telling us that salt and fat are rare in the natural diet. So, our ape brain craves more. Fast food companies exploit this and give us food high in the sensual overwhelming combination of fat, sugar, and salt.
Foods high in sugar taste sweet. Poisonous foods taste bitter. The hunter and gatherers who recognised this survived and passed their genes on.
These are hardwired into our ape brains. They cannot be escaped not matter how many men we send to the moon.
Our brains also have factory settings when it comes to sexual attraction, behaviour and mating.
Men and women have different factory settings.
Men generally need to spread their seeds in order to maxmise their chances of passing on their genes.
Females need to be more selective and choose the best genes possible, in order to pass on their genes.
The dangers of choosing the wrong partner in ancient times
In ancient times there was no DNA testing. If a female had many sexual partners two outcomes were most likely.
- The women would get pregnant by a man who was not bonded or committed to her. She would then be in danger because she could not fend for herself when pregnant.
- If she did not become pregnant, she would be known as a sexually available female. No male would be interested in her because if she got pregnant, he would not know if the child was his.
It is for this reason that female mating strategy is to maintain her value and select the highest value male that she can attract. This is what is known as hypergamy. A female aims for the male with the highest value stock. This will be:
- physical fitness (height, strength, good looks)
- financial resource (wealth, resources)
- social hierarchy (social influence)
And someone who has shown a commitment to her (engagement rings / expensive gifts)
Whether we like it or not, this is hard-wired into our are brains. It is also why why men are generally unwilling to partner up with sexually promiscuous women. The exception here is low-value men who have no other choice.
This is also why so many women ’slut shame’ other women. Women are very competitive because they all looking for the highest value male. This is an easy, and effective way to remove the competition.
Women lie about their N Count
Asking a women about their N count is pointless. They will often reduce their true numbers to appear more virtuous.
Sometimes they will even exclude ‘one night stands’ from their N count. The rule of thumb is to always multiply a women’s N Count by 3.
One tactic to find out if your women has been promiscuous is to say that you really do not care about her history. You mention that her history is in her past and has made her what she is today. She’ll often lower her guard and you will pick up little snippets of information. This information will help you determine her sexual history.
How does this apply to modern women?
Women act much differently in the hookup age. They post selfies on Instagram. They hook up with random men off Tinder. They sleep around and ride the cock carousel.
Women in the hookup age do not act in the manner of even the previous generation. Women crave attention. Women can get lots of attention on social media from thirsty, beta men.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex and have much higher N count than their male counterparts. It’s very easy for a woman to get sex.
It’s much harder for a man. A man needs value and game. The exception to this rule is if they are in the top 20% of men.
This inbalance works in a women favour earlier on in life but not later on when the power changes.
Women need to try and maintain their value. They need to retain youthful looks using make-up and hair dye. They need to keep their sexual history modest. Or at least, hide it.
A man has to increase his value. Women can stay thin to be attractive. Men need to hit the gym and build muscle and tone. Men need to work hard in their careers to earn money. Men need to build success and social standing.
Richard Cooper sums this up well when he says, ‘women don’t care about the struggle. They hang around at the finish line and take the winners’.
The promiscuity of females and the evolutionary hardwiring of humans is in conflict.
Is it any wonder that young men want to settle down with these women?
And the women who say that all men are looking for is sex and no commitment. Is it any wonder? Women are selling themselves using sex and then complain when they are only wanted for sex.
High-quality men do not wife up sluts, so if you act like one, don’t cry when you get left on the shelf.
